We have all heard the term "Friends With Benefits". It is the newest wave of ungodly principles hitting the world today. It basically refers to having a friend that you can sleep with on occasion if you like while still only remaining friends and never making any type of commitment. This phrase is all over the place now. There are books, tv shows, and movies being made showing that it is ok, and that eventually they realize that it either ruined the relationship or they end up falling madly in love with each other like some fable fairytale.
The sad fact is that people actually believe that this can work. The lies being told by satan through these movies and books are being thrown out to our teenagers in bucket fulls. In society, we no longer believe that God has just one person in mind for us, and as far as saving yourself for marriage, it is being completely cut out of the equation all together. The basic thought now days is that a person should try out as many options as they can. You don't want to only have kissed one person or had sex with just the person you would want to marry. They make it sound like you need to have "sowed your wild oats" and "kissed many frogs" before you find "Mr. Right." It is as if we are living at a car dealership and are suppose to test drive many vehicles before we choose the right one. The problem is, we are not machines! We are humans designed by God. We are created in His image and are not made in that way. We have feelings and emotions that are attached to each person that we become close to. Ask anyone who has ever been in a relationship that ended if they still have feelings for them and they would say, "Yes!" The more people that you "try" out in relationships, the more confused a person becomes. When you find that "Mr. Right" and he eventually does something that upsets you, which he will, you begin to dream about the others you might have been with and thought that they wouldn't have done or said that to you. You begin to compare them to your spouse and the wheels of doubt and distrust begin to turn.
Now, I am going to get really personal here. I arrived at Bible College at the young age of 18. Excited to start a new adventure, I quickly realized that not all boys, even at a Bible college, had the right intentions. Not too long after school started, I had gone on a couple of small dates, but quickly I had met my future husband. We began to hang out just as friends. People thought we were dating, but we weren't. We just were getting to know each other. As the months went by, we decided to start dating, but we had decided to wait for our first kiss, so that we would not be led into temptation. After about a year, I got my first kiss from him and I kept myself pure until marriage. I had decided that long ago, because I wanted to honor God and my future husband. Now, if we get into little tiffs, which is rare, I don't have ways to compare him, because I am faithful to only him. He is my friend with Godly benefits. He is there when I go to sleep at night, and there when I wake up. He is there when I need a hug, and I can know for sure, that as long as God allows us to live, he will be there when I'm old and gray.
God has a plan for each of our futures. Whether he chooses for a person to face this life on their own, or has one special person in mind for us, we are responsible to save ourselves for that one person. The world has tried to tell us that we should be out there, trying out every car in the lot until we FIND that special one. But, we don't need to go looking, for God already knows and has that special person for us; all we need to do is wait for God to place them in our path. And when God brings them before you, remember to keep yourself pure until marriage and do not allow yourself to be caught in situations that cause you to sin. Hang out in groups and spend time just getting to know each other on a Godly level. Wait patiently and God will supply you your "Best Friend With Godly Benefits".
Hebrews 13:4 "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."