The Proverbs 31 Woman

Beauty Secrets! We all have them. You know the one little, crazy secret that each person uses to make their skin glow or their hair shine! Tyra Banks talks about how she uses Vaseline under and around her eyes every night to keep her skin soft and prevent wrinkles. People use mayonnaise on their hair and the most recent one I've read about is mixing mouthwash and water, put it in a spray bottle, and spritz your hair for extra shine! So, what's your strangest beauty secret? Mine...well..is Milk of Magnesia! Yep, you read it right! I take a product that is for our upset stomachs and use it as a mask for my face! Crazy, I know, and yet it keeps my skin free of acne and looking young and tight!

We all love to look our best, and who wouldn't want to look like a supermodel? But, God desires us to have the beautiful, Proverbs 31 heart! What are some examples of this woman? In the Bible it says, "she gets up while it is still dark and prepares food for her family." "She makes thread with her hands and weaves her own cloth." Now, anyone that knows me, knows I am an early riser and I love to cook, so I got that first one down. The problem would come with the weaving....I am not a seamstress by any means! Should I take this literally? No, a Godly woman focuses on her family and puts others first. She works hard, but most importantly it says, "she speaks wise words and teaches others to be kind" and she is "respected." It goes on to say, "her husband trusts her completely."

When my husband and I first got married, we made a decision to never mention the word divorce in our home. There would be no jokes about leaving each other or "trading up" or some of the other stupid sayings that people throw out in either a joking manner, or in the heat of the moment. We wanted to make sure each other felt safe and that my husband knows he can "trust me completely!" It also has given a true sense of security for my children. They never run around scared, wondering if mom and dad are just joking; they know that the idea is just not going to be entertained. We vowed to be together through thick and thin. I think in today's world, a woman wants to become strong, sometimes stronger than a man, just to prove that they can. But, in a marriage, God says that the man is the head of the household. A Godly woman is not only respected, but respects her husband. She trusts in him, and knows that the final decisions he makes for the family have been thought and prayed over carefully.

Proverbs 21:19 says, "It is better to live alone in the desert than with a quarreling and complaining wife." It is easy to start complaining that our husbands don't give us enough time, love & attention, but the blame should also fall on us. How often do we pray for our husbands? When I was first married, I had the typical "girl type" ideas of marriage. You know, you go to work and as soon as you get home, you spend all your time together and then of course, you go to bed at the same time. All the movies show this, and of course it had to be true! Well, I found out real quick that when my husband gets home, he is sick of talking to people and needs an hour of down time by himself. He is also a night owl and I am not! So, falling asleep at the same time was not going to happen! As a wife, I learned to pick my battles. Did I want a quarrelsome or peaceful home? I wanted us to learn how to work together. Did that mean changing my husband to fit my "ideal" marriage? No, I learned to pray about the things we disagreed upon, rather than fight about them. I also realized that as I prayed, these things that bothered me so much, became less important. As I learned to let go, my husband noticed an attitude change and then his attitude began to change, and we started working together. Isn't that what marriage is all about? So, instead of finding all the flaws in our significant other, let's start working on our hearts and focusing on all the positive. In this world of "cheating" hearts, let's learn to trust our partners again and help them feel safe that we would never leave them. Let's respect them and pray for them and in turn, they will respect us and God will fill our hearts with joy and contentment.

"Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised." Proverbs 31:30

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